Feb 26, 2008
Bossy’s Daughter Takes On Bullies. With Crazy Hiccup Laughter.
When Bossy attended Grade School—back when protozoa and mollusks roamed the halls with the single mission of pulling down Bossy’s halter-top to expose her breast buds—Bullies looked like this:
According to Bossy’s daughter, these days the more common form of Bully looks like this:
Bossy’s Daughter hates Mean Girl Bullies. She hates them worse than seeing two friends bike past her bedroom window after they said they couldn’t play, she hates them worse than being invited for a hayride and then being told there isn’t enough room for her in the hay wagon.
In honor of Mean Girl Bullies, Bossy’s daughter wrote the following true story about a bully she likes to call Shite Heel. Actually Bossy’s Daughter likes to call her by her real name but Bossy doesn’t want to be sued by Shite Heel’s parents. Enjoy.
Hi. I am Shite Heel, and I just moved here and—what kind of a stupid school is this? I live a very bad life with my 17-year-old mom (lie), and my crime-committer dad who is in jail (lie.)
I am going to be in a play on Broadway and my co-star is Britney Spears (lie.) Isn’t that so amazing?
Sometimes I am actually nice to the other weirdos in my class and all of their weirdo friends. Like the time I picked up that girl’s pencil—and threw it halfway across the floor. And like the time I let that other girl cheat off my paper, which of course she wouldn’t do because she was afraid of getting in trouble (party pooper.) But while she was busy shushing me I managed to catch a glimpse at her paper. Yeah, I got 100% on that test.
But then I moved. I told all of my friends (lie) that I was moving to a mansion behind Rita’s Water Ice (lie.) And I also told them I could get free water ice whenever I wanted (lie.)
The End.
Ah, bullies. My 1st grader has one, the old fashioned kind – apparently we grow ‘em big and tough in the midwest. I think next time she gets picked on, I’ll take a page out of Bossy’s book and have her write a story about the local Shite Heel so we can giggle for hours.
Sweet pic of Bossy’s daughter, what a joy to see her smile!
Bossy’s daughter is hilarious and adorable and is not a mean girl at all.
Your are healing wonderfully. If I didn’t know….I wouldn’t have noticed anything in this picture besides your happy eyes and great teeth!!!
Ew, that story totally reminded me of the mean girls I went to school with.
You go, Bossy’s daughter…mean girls suck.
Please tell Bossy’s daughter (although she’s probably heard this 100 times) that she will look at those girls and laugh some day. I was bullied incessantly in school, mostly for the crime of being smart.
Well, wouldn’t you know: recently I went out to grab a bite with my Mom. We sidled up to the bar at a local pub to order salad, pizza and a couple of beers. As we looked up at that bartender to place our order, I realized that she was one of those “mean girls” from high school that used to torture me.
To her credit, she was as nice as pie that night. We chatted a bit: We are both married. I have one child, she has 3. She is renting an apartment and is having problems with the guy from our high school who she married and talked about what trouble her kids can be.
As we walked out of there and I took stock of my amazing daughter, wonderful husband and adorable house that I’ve owned for 4 years next month, I couldn’t help but think that all that bullying got her nowhere.
Bossy’s daughter has obviously learned the best coping skill in the world when it comes to mean girls – having brains and wit yourself. Very useful.
Bullies are unhappy people. None of them can smile like Bossy’s daughter…no,not even if they try.
Happiness abounds around Bossy’s daughter….and Stella.
Ohhh! Look at that lip! That is some healing. Nearly good as new and boy, we can all see exactly how brave Bossy’s daughter has been…
Bullies have inevitably been bullied at home and have no other way to releive their frustration then bullying others. Even if they bully their way to some sort of success, inevitably they hit a point where nobody is interested anymore and end up complaining about all their ‘bad luck’ as everything falls apart and they lose friends, jobs and their looks. It’s true, I swear.
I hate mean girls. They’re worse than mean boys.
I love her sense of humor. She is beautiful as ever and I am so thankful for her healing and her smile.
Bullies suck. I’ve been there and done that, and it does get better. At least the school-age ones teach us to recognize and deal with the grown-up ones. Not that it makes it any easier.
Bossie’s daughter has a beautiful smile, though, and that makes me very happy.
Shite Heel will hit her peak at roughly age 13. From there on out, it’ll be a downward spiral into miserable worminess.
Bossy’s pretty daughter, on the other hand, is just revving up. She’ll continue to sky-rocket into amazing awesomeness.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – our gal Eleanor Roosevelt
So much for that fancy-schmancy bully prevention program, eh?
Your daughter is awesome. Tell her she rocks out loud.
Who cares what the other girls will or won’t be. They may go far, they may learn, they may not and still go far. Mean and bully is often rewarded, especially if coated with confidence/arrogance and topped with a generous dollop of pretty. So we don’t worry about those mean girls.
We instead think about Bossy’s gorgeous daughter who will definitely go far, especially with such a fabulously well-developed sense of the ridiculous.
Bossy’s daughter rocks.
Bossy daughter rocks the house because (a)she has a fabulous sense of humor and a witty way with words; (b) she has a GREAT smile (and we know how much she cherishes that now); and (c)her wit and smile make clear that she is waay smarter than any bully whose best play is to throw a pencil across the floor. So there.
A group of girls terrorized me for most of elementary school and junior high. It was horrible, I wanted to die, and I cried before going to school a lot of the time.
I am 23 now (and this is the part you have to share with your daughter) and 2 weeks ago, one of them found me on Myspace. And APOLOGIZED.
I can’t tell you the satisfaction I felt.
Oh, and that kid from “A Christmas Story” turned out awfully good looking.
Wow. If Bossy’s daughter isn’t beautiful, I just don’t know who is. Her smile comes from the inside-out.
Bossy’s daughter is something real special, and Shite Heel is a turd. The End.
Bossy’s daughter is awesome and shouldn’t feel the least bit “bullied” by those mean girls.
I wish I could say that it gets better as you get older, but mean girls unfortunately stay mean girls.
Bossy’s Daughter Rocks The Caz-bah.
Yep, I was bullied too- sometimes by girls, sometimes by guys. Through elementary school into early high school (usually for being quiet, or getting decent grades, or for my appearance, or for my not-normalness)….and then somehow I achieved more, gained some confidence, had a small circle of friends, began to find my niche, and actually was treated differently and with even *gasp* respect!
I’m not sure who changed more, me or the bullies. Maybe it was both, and maybe enough of us were starting to grow up a little.
These things DO get better! In the meantime, Bossy’s excellent daughter with her beautiful smile has the right idea! My favorite line in the story is definitely: “I told all of my friends (lie)…”
I LOVE your sense of humor!
glad to see that bossy’s daughter is taking it all in stride.
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i’ve been there and dealt with that too bossy’s daughter.
Bossy’s daughter is the best–and as beautiful as ever!
They’re always around no matter how young or old you are.
Best wishes
Mean girls, blech. My daughter will be 10 next month and we have weathered some BFFs with teeth. Mighty teeth.
Painful.
Don’t let those cretins bring you down.
And Bossy’s daughter? You’re lovely.
What a great kid you have there!
My brother has, in adulthood, become friends with one of the ringleaders of the not-academically smart, but very-mean-girls at my middle school. Friends! Traitor. Interestingly, when my brother got married a few years ago, this mean girl couldn’t even approach me. She is still rich (my sin was that I was not rich), and has adopted an adorable baby, and has horses, servants, and many houses. She still has a pretty good life and can run all over people. Where’s the justice?
BOSSY’s daughter is so much better than Shite Heel.
Bossy’s daughter should get started on the screenplay.
I recently read a post about how our postings are like we’re all on our period at the same time–that in different places we independently choose to write about similar things. Imagine my surprise when I see the picture of Scott Farkus here today, when Suburban Turmoil used it in her Oscar post yesterday. SPOOKY!
oh yea- I remember going to school with shite heels mom.
oh yea- I remember going to school with shite heels mom.
Beautiful smile! Beautiful mind!
Poor Bossy’s daughter. I can relate. I had the worst kind of mean girl bullies: CATHOLIC SCHOOL mean girl bullies. God help me, I think I’m having a flashback. Now where did I put that bottle?
Please tell Bossy’s daughter that I am sitting here with a big goofy grin on my face. I couldn’t help myself. I just hope that Shite Heel’s homely uncle doesn’t come by my desk and catch me. Because then I might feel tempted to make him eat an optical mouse.
Oh sweet and beautiful Bossy’s daughter! You are hilarious to boot. What’s wonderful about the whole school thing is that one day you will LEAVE IT. And then the day right after that – you will never EVER think of these girls again.
But THEY will probably think of YOU. (And maybe even wonder how’s come yous aren’t knocked up crying with them at their pity party! “Life’s not fair!” They’ll say!)
I wish I had been around bullies like Scott Farkus. No, I had the mean girls.
Bossy’s daughter will be fine. She will grow stronger and more beautiful each day, and Shite Heel’s anger will continue to turn inward and will eat at her for many, many, many, MANY years.
The End.
Bossy’s daughter has an awesome sense of humor!
Shite Heel will age badly because her anger and sadness will eat away at her inner core. Bullies are sad, sad, sad, little people. Bossy’s Daughter has a great mother and a great inner core. She will age well. And Shite Heel will be very very jealous at their class reunion in 20 years. And Shite Heel will STILL be a bully.
Bossy’s daughter…it does suck you’re dealing with bullies.
I was bullied at times, too; I found that the strategy that worked best for me was to kill ‘em with kindness. Bullies are usually miserable inside (they don’t have that inner glow that you radiate) because they don’t the love and laughter that you have at home, so they belittle others in an attempt to make them feel miserable inside as well.
Those mean girl gangs…they are mean to each other, too. They often cry each themselves to sleep. Anyway, when I was your age-ish, for some reason one day I found myself being nice to a mean girl on the bus. I made her laugh…we became friends, she defected from the mean girls. That left two, one of which later also defected. The mean girls were toppled.
This was a long time ago, mean girls are different. However, they are still miserable inside, of that I am sure.
You’re the lucky on, Bossy’s daughter. Keep on shining!
Bossy’s daughter is clearly a chip off the old block.
Shite Heel sounds more desperate and pathetic than mean.
I was a mean girl, but not a hot one. It sucked for all of us.
I agree with Christine, above. Kill ‘em with kindness. Disarm the Mean Girls by seeming to be unaffected by their obnoxiousness. I had to do it as an adult over a period of about a year or more, with a Mean Girl in her 60s. Because I knew it would eat her alive (and because she was a customer), I took EVERY punch — “You may be right,” “I respect you opinion but I don’t see it that way,” etc. Smile smile smile. NAUSEATING! But it worked, and it absolutely KILLED her.
Mean Girls age, and some of them stay mean. And some of them go on to lead fabulously successful lives. Mean Girls do win sometimes, but it doesn’t mean you have to lose. High fives and big hugs to Bossy Daughter from one (of thousands) who has been there and wished she had your poise at your age!
– Laurie
I think it was Sid Farkus, not Scott.
I’ll happily punch Shite Heels in the face if needed…
I have dealt with a few Shite Heels in my time, and I have found the best way to deal with them is to try ignoring them at first and then if that doesn’t work, running them over with a car. You’ll be getting your permit soon, right?
Just kidding, silly girl.
bossy’s daughter takes after bossy in the writing department. It’s good to see she is healing. And, what an amazing spirit she has!!!
Mean Girls, Heathers. It’s all the same, just a different decade.
Bossy’s daughter is a powerful young woman; and she already knows the power of the poison pen!
look at that beautiful smile. Bossy Jr. is the coolest kid, EVAH!
and mean girls suck.
Cripes, Bossy. Your childhood bully looks JUST LIKE my childhood bully. I’ll never forget the day that he looked at me on the bus and said the following very slowly for deeper impact: “You. Are. SO. UGLY.”
That aside, the fact that Shite Heel mentions BRITNEY SPEARS speaks volumes about her character. Yikes.
Ah how I miss the days when you could just punch b*tches like that. My Daddy taught me how to lay a kid out with one swing and no one (boy or girl) ever messed with me twice. When my daughter started being bullied- in kindergarten for heaven sake- I had to use all my grown up sense to keep from teaching her like Daddy taught me! When she talks of these punks hurting her and I have to tell her to ignore them or tell them Jesus loves them I have to bite my tongue. To say nothing of when I go to pick her up and see the offenders how hard it is not to ‘accidentally’ knock em out with my handbag.
Bossy’s daughter, you rock! Last year, I worked at an all girls prep school – heavy population of mean girl bullies doing stupid things to nice kids – ick, not my very favorite job ever. I quit, but don’t quit school – I already finished school. By the way, nice to see your lovely face, girlie. You are adorable.
Speaking from years and years and years of personal experience, if you ignore a bully they will never, ever, ever go away.
Erin, I wish my dad had taught me how to lay a kid out. It probably would have saved me years a grief and been totally worth the suspension.
Good luck, Bossy’s daughter.
Is “Shite Heels” a jumble? because I’m all up for a challenge.
Shite Heel is in dire need of some Crest White Strips and in higher need of basic interpersonal skills, including kindness and decency.
Whereas Bossy’s daughter’s smile is flawless and her character impeccable.
Oh, when will you be linking to the new ‘I am Bossy’s Daughter’ blog? She comes up with some good ones.
I think I’m having PTSD heart palpitations as a result of this post.
Rock on, Bossy’s Girl.
I think girl bullies or so much worse then boy bullies.
You go Bossy’s Daughter!! You are beautiful!!
Bossy’s daughter will hopefully understand that the mean girl era will eventually end. Everything does. And then, Bossy’s daughter will look back when she is grown and be able to love the person she is because she was ALWAYS a nice person. The mean girls will never be able to do that.
Being mean sucks.
Bossy’s daughter is also a hoot and a wit and I love her to pieces.
Bossy’s Daughter: I remember how much this sucked. You’re handling much better than I did! Keep it up!
Bossy’s daughter is totally cute and awesome.
My childhood bully called me “holy, holy underpants” (I had a catholic school girls uniform, and that’s what we were called by those public school types) and punched me in the stomach when I walked home from school. I’d take that bully any day over the mean girls.
OK. The good news is, your daughter hates the Mean Girls. My best friend’s daughter watched it with her friends and they thought the Mean Girls were cool.
Yeeeah.
My girls are only eight and three. I’m hanging from the clock by my bloody fingernails to keep it from moving forward. You are doing a good job.
You go, Girlfriend! Bullies have no power over Bossy’s daughter. My son was being bullied by a girl. She loved him (1st grade love is so tragic) and he didn’t love her back and she turned into a stalker. He ate grass to get away from her on the playground (boy logic) and she finally left him alone.
Bossy and her beautiful, smart, kind-hearted Daisy need to watch “Romy and Michelle’s High School Reunion”. Dang, I just looked it up and it’s rated R for language. Maybe Bossy could preview it to see how bad the language is, because it is a brilliant example of mean girl comeuppance.
My 11 year old daughter is currently suffering from a roving group of rabid mean girls. Makes me want to just go into that school and kick some arse, redneck style. Of course, that wouldn’t help her, it would be more like feeding her to the damn wolves myself. Still…I can dream can’t I?
And Bossy’s daughter looks amazing. She’s a looker that kid. Better have a big stick when the boys start beating down your door…
That picture was worth a thousand words and what wasn’t said there, Bossy’s daughter elaborated perfectly.
Don’t let ‘em get to you; you’re better than that!
Oh and it was Scott Farkus. Sid was the mean kid in Toy Story.
Ugh, mean girls like Shite Heel are horrible. They should all have to live together, maybe somewhere like Antarctica. That way they can all walk around school/the mall and glare at each other.
Bossy’s daughter is so smart and has the cutest smile. That positive attitude towers above all the mean girls in the world. Maybe someday it will rub off on one of them.
I hope my daughter grows up to be as cool as Bossy’s daughter. She is one tough cookie. I love a girl with some spunk!
Please tell Bossy’s daughter that she can take heart! Mean Girl Bullies grow up to be Miserable Plastic Women. They will marry and divorce many times over. They will have copious plastic surgery. They will make and lose “friends” more frequently than they change underpants. They will never ever be truly happy.
But they do try to make one miserable in those lovely awkward years between birth and … um… well, I’m 31… tell her I’ll let her know when they quit.
As my grandmother was fond of saying “don’t let the bastards get you down”.
Bossy’s daughter is so cool – I hate mean girl bullies too!
Nice first exposee on social injustice – you go girl!
Me thinks that mean people suck.
So do bullies.
I am glad Bossy’s daughter gets this so young.
Why can’t others?!
Please tell Bossy’s Daughter that she needs to remember the Tuvaluan First Rule of School:
Don’t Take Shit From Anyone.
If that doesn’t work I can send Oldest over.
Bossy’s daughter is SO cool!!
O Bossy’s Daughter: there were mean girls when I was your age too. Now, they can text you mean things or spread rumors by cell phone BUT you can blog about them! As Fussy says, writing well is the best revenge. As my mother said about the mean girls when I was growing up: early ripe, early rot.
Miss Bossy Junior, you mini-goddess! The mean girls will be bitter gin-and-tonic Botoxers by age 30, and you will be soaring to genius heights of compassion and smarts and maybe just allowing yourself a little chuckle once in a while. You rock on, little sister. Mean girls may be able to get away with, you know, lip gloss addiction and sweatpants that say ‘PINK’ across the rear. But that’s nothing compared to that gorgeous smile of yours, and those amazing kind eyes. What an amazing young lady you are. Can’t imagine where you get it from.
Bossy’s daughter is a great person. Mean girls suck. Also? Bossy’s daughter looks BEAUTIFUL!
Bossy’s daughter is a beautiful person, inside and out!
bossy’s daughter is hereby invited to join bossy at my house on the excellent road trip. because bossy’s daughter? she’s a riot.
Scott Farcus got the shite kicked out of him eventually and so will the mean girls. It may be a slow painful life consequence, but it will come.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK you for picture Bossy’s DD!! have prayed for healing for you!!
My bully apologized to me the first month of high school, when it became quite clear that I was no longer a freak but HE was. This week he wrote me again, after almost twenty years, just to say hi. We ended up being friends, of all things.
Tell Bossy’s daughter that nice girls ALWAYS win in the end.
Bossy’s daughter’s lip seems to work just fine! And she’s very mature and astute for her age (like Bossy, hm?)
Oh my gosh . . . Bossy’s daughter is BEAUTIFUL. And that smile is . . . all the come uppance she needs to kick mean girl butt.
Bossy’s daughter is fantastic! She looks fantastic too!
One day when she is grown up, Bossy’s daughter will run into said Mean Girl and Mean Girl will want to be her friend. Cause Mean Girls life sucks. And Bossy’s daughter is awesome. And cool.
And Bossy’s daughter will squish her like a bug.
The End.
Bossy’s daughter has what all those other bullies don’t – wit and a wicked sense of humor.
Love that kid and her beautiful smile.
Coming out of lurking to post my own mean girl story:
I recently saw my mean girl at a 10 year high school reunion. She was still beautiful and had two perfect children and was telling everyone about her perfect doctor husband and their perfect HUGE house and her perfect life…Then I told everyone how I had lived in several different states and the Philippines while in college and had married my best friend, who was a marine biologist and how we lived in the Virgin Islands and how we had traveled to Japan and all over south and central america diving and living and seeing the local culture. Even though Mean Girl still had a perfect life, my life’s stories were MUCH more interesting because I realized early what was important in life and what was just for “show” (much like Bossy’s daughter).
Know what the most interesting thing about this encounter was, though? As everyone began showing me much more attention than Mean Girl was getting, I actually looked over at her and felt sorry for her. See, mean girls HAVE to have constant approval. Smart girls like Bossy’s daughter know that the true value of one’s life comes from one’s self and not what others think about you. I am very glad that Bossy’s daughter has realized early on that if she loves her life, then her life is worth loving!
Highschool bullies suck! It is the number one reason I hated H.S. so much, tell bossy’s daughter that luckily, very few bullies exist in the college world, since being narrow minded in college is what gets people made fun of, not the other way around.
Bossy’s daughter is CLEARLY much more beautiful the Shite Heel! And smarter, too!
Can’t remember the exact quote that used to hang on my grandmother’s mirror (and I can’t find it on the internet) but it goes something like this:
When someone says something nasty to you, the best response is silence. Let it hang in the air unanswered for all to hear its ugliness.
I was horribly unpopular in high school, and I would think about that phrase all the time. I think it made me a little classier then, and now, I am a perfectly social nice person.
Bossy’s daughter- you are stunningly gorgeous with the sweetest laugh I’ve seen!! Hang in there.
You had me at BUDS
I don’t even know your daughter, but I want to hurt those bullies, preferably with my bare hands. Or perhaps gloves would be more sensible, because of fingerprints.
Bossy’s daughter looks so beautiful! Yay for healing. Boo for bullies. My daughter had a year like that in SECOND GRADE. With a little bully who said she lived in a mansion and had 13 ponies.
i love bossy’s daughter. i STILL remember the girl who made fun of me in 6th and 7th and 8th grade. i am so going to look her up on facebook now.
i predict bossy’s daughter will prevail.
I was totally bullied in high school. J.Lambert Buttheaditza was my nemesis. She threw wet towels at me in the locker room, yelled at me all the time. She was obviously jealous of my brains, talent and beauty.
Oh she is beautiful
These girl bullies are incredibly scary these days. Maybe they always were. Yes, I think they were. I remember.
Great, creative venue for your daughter to write this out.
First I have to say the Bossy’s daughter’s lip looks like it is healing beautifully!
Second, I have to say is I feel your pain. I have a 14 yr. old “nice girl” and it can be very difficult navigating her through teenhood. Stay strong and she will find her way. She alreay seems to know who to stear clear of!
She is SO going to mow over those girls in a few years. And her lip looks great!
OMG….I cannot believe kids still use the term shite heel…well, we left off the e in shite…but that was like 30 years or so ago.
Good for Bossy’s daughter to get her own back on the nasty shite heel girl. They are the worst.
Mean girls suck!
Bossy’s daughter is absolutely gorgeous!
my daugter knows Shite Heel as well – did you know she had a boyfriend who looked amazingly like a web posted picture of a famous singer.
I think Shite Heel has major security issues.